There’s a specific kind of ache that settles in your chest when you look around and feel like everyone else got instructions for adulthood that you somehow missed. Maybe your friends are announcing promotions, engagements, babies, new homes — and you’re still trying to figure out what you actually want out of your life, or how to get unstuck without feeling like you’re endlessly starting over.

Do you ever feel like you’re just spinning your wheels in life? You know something feels off — but no matter how much you analyze, make pros and cons lists, or vent to friends, the clarity just isn’t coming.

Maybe the rules that once made sense—or kept you safe—aren’t working anymore. Maybe you’re noticing that the old expectations feel heavy, constricting, or completely disconnected from who you are now. That’s not a failure. It’s a sign of growth.

Discover a feminist approach to New Year’s resolutions that prioritizes your values, joy, and well-being. Learn how to break free from perfectionism, redefine productivity, and set goals rooted in authenticity and community care.

Perfectionism is a tricky trap. It disguises itself as ambition or self-improvement but often leaves you feeling stuck, exhausted, and never quite good enough. It whispers that if you just try harder or do more, you’ll finally feel worthy of love, success, or happiness. But here’s the truth: perfectionism isn’t the path to fulfillment—it’s the road to burnout.

If you’re grappling with whether to see your family this holiday season, I want to tell you something that might feel radical: You don’t have to go.

As a highly sensitive person, navigating the world can feel overwhelming. But with healthy boundaries, you can protect your emotional well-being and thrive. Learn how to recognize your limits, set clear boundaries, and practice self-compassion to reclaim your energy and joy in a noisy world.